I dont get off on victimising others either. I have better things to do. Yes I play, but if its to the detriment of myself of another whats the point in the long term.
Alas....some men on a friday night always manage to find a fight, no matter who they are with.
Maybe being aggressive makes them feel good for a while. It doesnt necessarily do the same for the mother or lover who has to pick up the pieces.